IMPORTANT BLOG HOUSEKEEPING NOTE:

feminishblog:

I got the domain feminishblog.com, so sometime soon I’m going to redirect my tumblr to that address. If you read my blog from your dash, it’s not a big deal, but it will affect any readers that don’t use tumblr themselves, or for tumblr users that go to my directly. It will no longer be at the “.tumblr.com” address.

Once I give a couple days for people to catch up and read this notice, I will probably make the official move to feminishblog.com.

xoxoxo

Thanks to definitelydope for the tip! The address is officially changed, but apparently you can still type in the old one and it will work just fine.

TL;DR Read me on your dash, read me at feminishblog.com, read me at feminishblog.tumblr.com I’M EVERYWHERE

IMPORTANT BLOG HOUSEKEEPING NOTE:

I got the domain feminishblog.com, so sometime soon I’m going to redirect my tumblr to that address. If you read my blog from your dash, it’s not a big deal, but it will affect any readers that don’t use tumblr themselves, or for tumblr users that go to my directly. It will no longer be at the “.tumblr.com” address.

Once I give a couple days for people to catch up and read this notice, I will probably make the official move to feminishblog.com.

xoxoxo

But seriously - I can’t write a single post without people trying to start something with me.

I could make a post like I love the color purple, it’s the best, and I’d get a response: WTF is wrong with you, green is way better fuck off go make yourself not useless for once

*deletes everything I ever posted because people have selective reading comprehension and see whatever they want (and what they want is usually to demonize me)*

Update

Had my HR phone call about the incident at work. I was pretty underwhelmed with it, but I am going to wait and see… She said they’d speak with the guy next week, make sure I’m no longer scheduled with him, and they want me to send over a written recap over of what happened that night.

I suppose this is all to be expected, but the HR lady seemed to not think what I was sharing was the big of a deal. I’m sure she didn’t mean anything by it (hopefully), but afterwards she said that “you can say something to one person and it’s not a big deal, and to another person it’s a really big deal” - That sounds like she’s saying it’s on me for being “offended” by it. I use quotes because that an understatement; I was trigger and retraumatized.

No, he shouldn’t have said what he said to anyone. Ever. Under any circumstances. Joking or serious.

Maybe I’ll get some better advice from my therapist on Monday…

EDIT: I also want to thank everyone who weighed in about what my options were, shared their resources, and experiences on this front. Thank you.

Google Adsense Question (for anyone who has tried it or understands it):

I went to sign up but hit a little snag because it doesn’t recognize/accept a “.tumblr.com” address. I need to buy the straight up “feminishblog.com” domain. Okay, not a big deal. It’s available and I’ve seen that option in the reference account page where you can redirect to your own URL.

I’m just wondering if it’s as simple as buying the domain for a couple dollars and then typing it into your tumblr preference account page, or would I need to work out some different hosting option to accompany it?

Online tutorials don’t address this snag. I don’t know if tis is the simplest thing ever, or very confusing. Thank you!

Little Happy Moments

I accompanied my friend to the DMV (I know, such a great friend I am), and as we’re waiting for him to get his renewed license pictured taken, this elderly woman scrambles out of the test taking room towards her husband exclaiming, “I did it! I passed!”. He embraces her and they cuddle for a second before noticing my friend and I smiling at them. The husband then says with a wink, “It took her fifteen tries, but she finally got it.”. She swats him playfully and they walk out of the DMV together, still hip and hip, arm and arm.

I'm confused. What happened at work? I read back a ways on your blog but I couldn't find what actually happened.

I haven’t said what happened yet. I’m going to wait to see how things pan out with the company and potentially try and take legal action. Once that is figured out, I will definitely share what happened on here, and document every fucked up road block I hit along the way to try and do something about it.

It was surrounding this co-worker though. I made that linked post a little over two weeks ago, and basically stopped talking to him after that aside from work talk. I’ve just tried to get in and get out, but there was an incident a couple nights ago and it really triggered and re-traumatized me. He said some things just totally out of the blue and it was horrific.

Hope that makes more sense. I’ve just felt the need to get my feelings out on here because the aftermath so far has been pretty bad as well, and I haven’t felt like I could be heard or safe anywhere. Will keep you posted as I see fit to share! xx

Were you able to get anything from it?
I sent my manager an email, and will be speaking with him about it Friday, but I have zero confidence in him as a manager or person. He’s just very incompetent and kind of full of shit. Of course he responded to my email with the corporate BS of “I always try to make the workplace fun and comfortable”… yeah no. Full of shit, but he had to say it, I get that. I just know he’s going to give me a half-ass apology, but that doesn’t fix anything or do anything for me.

Were you able to get anything from it?

I sent my manager an email, and will be speaking with him about it Friday, but I have zero confidence in him as a manager or person. He’s just very incompetent and kind of full of shit. Of course he responded to my email with the corporate BS of “I always try to make the workplace fun and comfortable”… yeah no. Full of shit, but he had to say it, I get that. I just know he’s going to give me a half-ass apology, but that doesn’t fix anything or do anything for me.